Repitition of habits

Habits, something that is repititive, a routine that we follow almost everyday. But, there are some habits that we tend to do on some events of our life, that may not be a part of our daily routine, but they happens, once in a while, once in a month or two. For example, you're choosen by the teacher to speak on stage, in front of everyone and YOU ARE A confident kid but still there's nervousness, which makes you shake your leg. It's a habit, you only do it, when you're nervous and the thing is that you don't even do it, it just happened. It's normal, it's okay to not always be confident, but don't let that nervousness overshadow you. That's some motivation dose, but yeah let's just stick to our topic, habits. What I actually wanted to say is that all of our habits are acquired by our surroundings, environment. It's not like what we are today is just because of a single person. Our parents, first of all, they start building our personality, they teach us basic manners and etiquettes, how to act in front of certain people, who should we help, who should we talk to, how to talk, greet etc. Then, in schools, our teachers and fellow classmate's behaviour starts altering our personality and that process continues in senior classes, college, job/ business world as well. And that's how it is done. There's no shame in changing your opinion and accepting it after gaining more knowledge about that thing. That's how we grow. With our age, our opinions need to be changed on a lot of issues, but obviously not on everything. Whenever I hear people saying that they have learnt everthing from this particular person, they're my only ideal, that's wrong, they're basically lying without even knowing it. Whatever they're today, that's not and can't be just because of one person, there are a lot of people in the making of that superior version of them. Yes, you can say that they've taught you everything about a particular field, that's a correct statement. 

I don't know what made me write this, that not what I wanted to write but yeah it is what it is, happens sometimes. That's it for this one, see you all next time.

Stay hydrated y'all♡

Bye.

Hell on earth?

The internet is a weird place.One day, I was mindlessly scrolling through Instagram (bad habit, I know 😭) when I saw a reel saying, "You attract what you are, not what you want." I tried to associate this with my situation, wondering if I'm the one who's wrong, and that's why I don't have many friends. As I continued scrolling, I saw another reel saying, "Real people always have fewer friends." Again, I tried to relate it to my situation. Social media is hell; it won't let us live in peace. Every reel brings a new emotion, and we start associating ourselves with it, even if we don't want to.

Yesterday, I saw a reel saying, "There's definitely something wrong; someone among us is lying. Otherwise, how has everyone been deceived?" It made me think about how everyone faces toxicity, bad behaviour whether it's family or friend. 

We're always the villains in someone's story and side characters in someone else's. But we have our own life, where we're the main character. We should ensure that we don't become a side character or villain in our own story because of others.

Life in 20s is...

I've heard people talking a lot about 20s. 20s are like this, like that, do this , do that. I personally believe that there are four types of lives, people live in there 20s.

The very first one are those who are doing nothing to serve their future, to make themselves disciplined, consistent, better over all, they don't have a routine, they just have a lot of friends around them, they are partying most of the time, active on social media, just pure enjoyment, that's it, nothing other than that.

The second one are those who have the least amount of friends, they work on themselves, they meditate, workout, study, follows a routine, don't party much or even not at all, not really active on social medias, they're just hustling hard to make them a better version of themselves.

Then there's this third category, they don't have friends, they don't even work on themselves, they don't party, ofcourse they can't because that requires people which they don't have, they don't move their body, they don't work, they don't study, they don't do well in their respective fields. WORST TYPE OF PEOPLE, in my opinion. All they do is just complaint, be depressed all the time, lazy and what not. These type of people are just stuck in a rot, in a negative loop, that is just sucking their potential. I really hope whoever is reading this must not feel relatable with the third category, they are worst than the people of first category, they're enjoying atleast, even if it is going to cause them in future, atleast they're happy in their present. Third category people are ruining their present and future as well.

Can you guess the fourth category?

The one who knows how to  maintain balance and it's a skill which needs to be learned. People who belong to the fourth category are rare, not saying that they don't exist, they do, but they are very less. They can hustle and still take out time to enjoy with friends and do a lot more, the typical ideal child:')

What category suits you the best, lemme know.

You know, people in their 20s are basically in their experimentation phase, they try a lot of things, and that's how it should be, if you're not like this, you're wasting your 20s, according to me atleast. Blogging is one of my interests, I love to write, to jot down my thoughts about something and that's why I write here.

If you're improving yourself, read this...

I've read somewhere, "DISCIPLINE is the HIGHEST FORM of self-love", and I agree to the core. Self love is nothing but just taking care of yourself, upskilling yourself, making the best version of yourself, being happy with yourself. And when they say discipline is the highest form of self love, they meant to be disciplined enough to meditate daily.

Disciplined enough to workout regularly (including rest days).

Disciplined enough to take proper meals everyday.

Disciplined enough to have fixed sleep schedule.

Disciplined enough to take showers everyday.

Disciplined enough to shut your mouth in situations where you don't need to talk.

Disciplined enough to keep learning new things, to read.

Disciplined enough to not being afraid to talk to new people.

Disciplined enough to focus on what need to be focused on.

Disciplined enough to journal.

Disciplined enough to say no.

Disciplined enough to study (even if you don't want to).

Disciplined enough to keep yourself hydrated.

Disciplined enough to not pay attention to things and people that are not worthy of your time and energy.

Disciplined enough to not be lazy.

Disciplined enough to not force things and people, to let them go.

Disciplined enough to maintain your looks, to invest your capital-time-energy in yourself.

Disciplined enough to take action.

Disciplined enough to make a comeback after a setback because slacking behind is normal, it's okay to take a day off and do nothing BUT DON'T make this your routine.

And disciplined enough to do everything that adds value to your life, that improves your life.

One more thing I would like to add is don't let this "self improvement concept" lift up your ego. Prevent yourself of thinking of you so highly that you start insulting and behaving coldly with normal people ( that's what these self improvement people think of other people). Saying this with experience because I was also one of them, but soon I realised that it's not them, it's me. I'm a computer science student, so obviously I'm into this hackathon/ internship thing. I got to know about a hackathon and I needed someone to form a team, so I asked my friends who're also from tech backgrounds, if they would like to do it. They said no. I felt bad. I analysed my situation with my friends and that made me realised that till now, I never really had friends who would you know...force me to level up, to grind hard... together. No, I was that friend for me. Again, as usual, I blamed my destiny that why I can't have someone, why I can't have friends of the same mindset, with whom I can plan my future, share my goals, my progress, why can't I have someone with whom I can enjoy this grinding, this hustle. But, since I was that friend for me, I explained it to myself that these people around me are just my "friends" for fun, sharing memes, gossiping about each other's life, not to discuss future, goals, some real world talk, NO. Maybe, I'll find someone like-minded, who would love to talk about things that I want to do, in future, but till then I only have myself. And I should be okay with that and the good part is that I'm. And who said that I'm alone, I don't have anyone. I've my parents, my books with me. God is with me. There's a saying in Hindi, that goes 'jiska koi nahi hota, uska khuda hota hai'. 

And yeah, that's it for this one, I went too far I guess😅 but I wrote my heart out in this one. I'll see you next time.

Stay hydrated y'all♡

Bye.

Normalise Randomness

Before starting this blog, I want to offer some advice, especially to those who want to write a book. Never, I mean NEVER, write down a topic unless you have time to write about it. Who knows what your mood will be like next time? Right! Okay, back to today's topic... or not. I never really started a new topic; I was just busy giving advice. And now I'm writing this because I forgot why I picked up my pen and diary (yeah, you read that right - I don't write directly on my PC or phone). What was I about to write? And... you know what? I guess I found my topic: it's okay to not have a specific topic to talk or write about. I mean, you could just pick up your pen and diary/notebook and start writing about what's on your mind. At least, that's what works for me. Writing makes me feel better, and talking hides my true self. When I'm with friends, I talk a lot - I don't know why or how, but I just can't stop myself. But the moment I'm alone, I'm quiet. I do have talk sessions with myself, but sometimes I just write, quietly. My mouth needs some rest, bruh. Like right now, I'm writing every single word coming to my mind instead of spitting it out. Which is actually quite good - my hand is exercising, and my brain is doing... well, random thinking. I'm not using my phone (ironically, I'm typing this on my phone). Yeah, that's it for this one. I hope some of you can relate.

 

Stay hydrated y'all♡

Bye.

High value hobbies are a myth?

A few days ago, I was wasting my time scrolling on YouTube, there's this video in my recommendation saying, "High-value hobbies ever men should have". I watched that video and then searched up for HiGh VaLuE HoBbIeS EvErY WoMeN SHoUlD HaVe. I watched 2-3 videos, only to realise what dumbsh!t I was consuming in the name of content. My exams were going on that time( yes, and yet I was wasting my time doomscrolling on YouTube). Now that my exams got over, I'm finally able to write again ( I scored well in that exam btw🙂).

 Just a disclaimer that what you're about to read is just my personal opinion, if you don't agree with me, please let me know in the comments below. 

What I personally believe is that hobby is something, some sort of activity that gives us joy, peace. Whenever we feel like like doing nothing, we tend to do something which we prefer to do in our boring times, may be when we want to..you know, escape our reality, full of problems, for a while. For most of the people of today's generation, Gen-Z, this hobby seems to be doomscrolling on YouTube short videos, Instagram reels, not a very fun or creative thing to do(we are stuck in this loop fr). My hobbies are reading, writing and a lot more, but I would like to mention just these two here. Well, talking about my hobbies, these are not something very unique but that's what I enjoy doing and that's what I thought after watching those videos that hobbies are something of your own, you own your hobbies. You can't, nor you should develop hobbies to impress someone, that's wierd. Hobby is to make your own self happy nor someone else. Those videos have millions of views, seriously, people are searching up for hobbies that they should adapt to make them look or feel cool, to make people like them, like you don't even know what you like to do personally, are you for real, that's sh!t. 

Search within you, for you, by yourself, not on social media platforms.

Spending time on your hobbies, something you like to do is supposed to be in your own little happy world where you just do you and no enternal existence is going to disturb you. Trust me when I say this, but you CAN'T find that happiness online.

That's it for this one, I'll see you next time:)

Stay hydrated y'all♡

Bye.

Dosti - a never ending saga

ये दोस्ती भी कितनी मासूम चीज होती है

कभी भी किसी से भी हो जाती है।

प्यार अक्सर सूरत देख कर होता है,

लेकिन दोस्ती का आलम ही अलग है जनाब,

ये सीरत देख कर हो जाती है।

दोस्ती निभाना अगर उतना आसान होता

जितना करना होता है,

तो शायद नजराने कुछ और होते।

लोग शायद उतने दुखी न होते।।

जिम्मेदारियों की भीड़ में अक्सर

दोस्ती नजरंदाज हो जाती है,

बचपन के दोस्त इस भीड़ में कही पीछे छूट जाते हैं

"हर महीने कम से कम एक बार मिलेंगे"

ऐसा बोल कर हम अक्सर भूल जाते हैं,

भूल जाते हैं या career की tension

भूलने को मजबूर कर देती है,

अब तो वो यादें देखने को 

Gallery भी महीनो में एक बार खुलती है।।

School खत्म होने पर महसूस होता है

की हर कोई हमारा दोस्त नहीं था

किसी का हम timepass थे

कोई हमारे वक्त गुजारने का जरिया था।

यही तो मासूमियत है दोस्ती की,

जब चल रही होती है, तब वक्त का पता नहीं चलता

और जब खत्म हो जाती है...................

दोस्ती हमेशा लड़ाई झगड़े से खत्म नहीं होती

कभी कभी यूं ही बात बंद हो जाती है

कुछ कारण नहीं होता,

बस बात बंद हो जाती है।।